Light Camera Action...

. . . a very interesting heading and an old cliché, but one that is so true of many ladies on this and similar portals. Having written to and corresponded with many men on this and other portals, it would appear that 73% of those (a high percentage) feel this article should be made public if only to highlight to the female advertiser how best for her to secure a response from a genuine man and not an internet player, who in the final analysis destroys the validity of free portals such as this one and that of the genuine male advertiser. This article has not been written to condemn the female advertiser, nor for that matter in any way be derogative of her presentation of herself, but more to show her that there is a little more sought by the genuine male in here then just lust for the female body or an internet adventure. Let’s look at the heading word by word and digest exactly what each refers to and what each represents: Lights – most on this or a similar portal (male and female alike) would like to be in the spotlight, amongst the first to show in search results, the first to be noticed. But are we not going over the top with the spotlight in the way we present ourselves and in turn perhaps attracting the wrong type of attention? Camera – in order we jump into the spot light we need to reach for the camera, take a series of photographs aimed at generating interest from the male who may be reading our profile, but most certainly will be looking at our photos. Action – having attracted a male following, it is time now to present the male with the ultimate, two or three emails (perhaps a slight exaggeration here but I am sure you get my drift) an immediate meeting and then whoooooooooooop’s it never worked out. Ladies, have you ever considered why it is you seem to attract so many players? Why it is some men that seem level headed and down to earth appear to just disappear after a few short emails or perhaps never even write? Consider the above and then read on, look at your profile, then look also at your images . . . Every genuine male on this and on a similar portal is here looking for the one lady with whom he may build a relationship, that one special lady who he feels meets the criteria he has set himself. As such this genuine male will read your profile and consider its contents before replying. Therefore when composing your profile, be up front, be yourself – if you select English as a second language but need the use of a translating program, say so in your profile – this in no way will deter the genuine male. In your profile, list what you are seeking in real terms but be realistic; do not say as I have seen in many adverts, “must be rich”, “must be financially well off”, this just portrays you as a gold digger and as much as the genuine male seeker in here may want to write to you, this will turn him off and perhaps in your case, see an opportunity missed. Short profiles that say little or those that say nothing are counterproductive; a waste of your time and in the final analysis will attract the wrong type person to you. If you find the one man that interests you, then let him know, write to him or if shy place him in your favorites – most serious male advertisers (92% of those polled) do this themselves and check their added to favorites every-day. This is little more than an expression of interest in a person, and fulfills a vacuum that often appears on such portals. Check your added too favorites as well, you never know who has added you, then check their profile and decide if they meet the criteria set by you for your perfect partner, if you like what you see and are shy to write first, then add him to your favorites – let him see that you are showing an interest in him. Staying with the Action topic – if you do start to correspond do so over a period of time, give yourself and the male the chance to get to know each other – place no pressure for an early or immediate meeting, try building a relationship based on friendship here and on the phone if that is what you prefer first, you’ll be surprised as to how feelings grow even over a distance and on the internet. Most successful relationships where people met on the internet via a portal such as this were first built by communication, exploration and relationship building by the exchanging of views, seeking out and identifying similar values, interests, likes and dislikes, that when a meeting did take place it was as if both had known one another for many years, got lost and then found each other again. Now to step back to the question of Camera – it goes without saying that every lady wants to look as attractive and inviting as she can in her photos, but stay with the real you – show yourself in the light that portrays your normal appearance. Bikini shots are nice to look at and the odd one in a set of photos on the portal hidden amongst your others is great, but do not make this your main theme, if you do, you will probably attract the players who will make all manner of comments, waste your time and as is always the case, give a portal such as this a bad name. Remember a genuine male seeking a real life partner wants to see a little more than just the outline of your figure – show him your dress sense, your face, your eyes – in short, show him the real you. Remember another two old clichés, “all that glitters is not gold”, and “beauty is only skin deep”, these are very true of internet dating as indeed is, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. Now we arrive back at where we started this - in the Spot Light – attend to what is written above, be yourself, remember that every man in here is seeking a woman that is a lady and a lady that is also all woman, all in the one – show this through your photos and profile and you will find that you will be in the spot light and hopefully not for too long – your soul mate will show his hand. LIGHTS, CAMERA, ACTION – can work for you if portray the real you. As to the players who will without doubt find that this article eliminates some of what they pray on and reduces the avenues with which they seek out their pray, I have but this to say . . . whoooooooooooops . . This article is dedicated to Elena, a very special lady. Czeslaw